Having children does not make you a grown up
Being able to seduce women/men does not make you a grown up
Lying to people and keeping love at bay certainly does not make you a grown up
Abandoning your friends for a piece of ass does not make you a grown up
We all choose our paths in this life -we can choose light or darkness. Sometimes the choices we make effect other people more deeply than we realize. Real grown-ups know when they have been a jerk and apologize accordingly.
My daughter has some friends who, over the past year, have encouraged her to grow away from her family, proclaiming themselves as her family. They are Lost Boys, in search of something to fill up the soul, but they are searching in the wrong places. Sadly enough, a couple of these guys are genuinely likeable - but they have shown their true colors. It appears they are "family" as long as it means they might be able to talk my daughter into sleeping with them - and now that a girlfriend has entered into the mix - they are willing to give up her friendship.
So Gus and Melvin - here is what I really want to say - I'm angry that you made poor choices - even angrier that you hurt my daughter - but she loves you and the things that have made you precious to her, have made you precious to me as well. Stop basing your life and your friendships on when you are going to have sex again- your life is passing you by and you are missing it. You are intelligent, handsome men with a lot to offer the right girl - but you are pissing away the opportunities presented to you by spending time with the wrong girl. A life based on lies is no kind of life at all - the thrill will wear off - and you will find yourself truly alone. Don't settle for someone who professes to love you - but really just wants to own you. Don't settle for sex instead of love. Hold out for someone who can see who you really are - someone who has a good heart - someone who will love your friends because they are a part of who you are.
Each day we have the opportunity to be a better person- and we shouldn't waste it.
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For the record, I was the one who didn't call Melvin, and he may or may not have know what was going on, but he did call today. I think he is genuinly sorry for the circumstances, but they dont actually involve him. He's trying, and he gets points for that.
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