The very few things I know for sure about love- for a girl I love.

Someone I adore is hurting today, and I wanted to repost this, because I still believe it is true.  Love does not discriminate based on age or weight or convenience of schedule.  When it comes, you should be ready.  Don't let love pass you by because you are too frightented- hold on with both hands and thank God for the opportunity. 

Love is as real as the sunshine and the air we breathe.  It is alive and it wants to come live with you.

I believe in love - and that we can love someone all of our lives and never do anything about it.

I believe that love has been the most powerful motivator in my entire life- and if people were not so afraid of what it could do,  love could renovate a lot of lives.  Even Christ told us that God is Love ( and not the King who likes us a lot, maybe an 80 on a scale of 1-100)


I believe that you cannot choose who you love, but you can choose what you do about it.

There are people who have stayed in my heart for years - long after any flame had been extinguished -a profound musician said that you never stop loving somebody, you just start loving someone else. I have found this often to be true.

Love can be frightening as its wake washes over you like a tidal wave, leaving you feeling naked and exposed. It is often worn on the sleeve and difficult to conceal  - perhaps because of its sheer brute force, Love implodes into a life and things are never the same.

Love honestly and as completely as you can.  There is absolutely nothing more tragic than a true love lost - except for a true love that never was because someone was too afraid to try. 

Fireworks are not necessary for you to love someone - but they are VERY rare.  If you do have fireworks, definitely pay attention and see where things go.  The intensity of a connection like that is a harbinger of things to come.  ( I am experientially short here, so I am not sure what things exactly, but there has to be something amazing after that kind of a start to a story, right?)

Sacrifical love - a love of service freely given - is what we are called to give. But there is a big difference between sacrifice and enabling. Loving does not mean allowing the other person to behave in a way that is harmful to them and to you. Love does not diminish accountability.  Truly loving someone can also mean standing up to them and being honest when no one else will.

Two people who love should come to that partnership equally strong - different areas of different strengths, but equally strong. My dad always said that both people had to give 110% to make it work - he managed to be married to one woman for over 40 years - but that is a whole other note. Just because you love someone does not mean that you are healthy for each other - and continuing down the same path of destruction is no help to anyone.

There is no shame in deciding that an unhealthy path can no longer be the one you follow. It is much more difficult to be honest - to be respectful - to let go. Those are the things that love asks of us. The ability to care about someone so much that you are able to let go if the time comes.   Sometimes closure is something you have to give yourself- and in so doing you honor the love that you shared with someone else. You cannot choose who you love, but you can choose what you do about it.