Do Over

Being part of a family is hard. Sometimes more than one of you is having a crisis - and then there is no one to take the lead - and things get a little harried, assumptions get made, and we slip into bad habits. It happens, a natural part of being human. We have had a couple of days like that - oh wait - a couple of months like that.

The past year has been full of changes - lost job, lost loves, sick parents, lots of trips, exs and arguments, teenagers finding their way... you get the picture - every day life surrounds us. But add to that a chance encounter with the Ogre's ex-girlfriend last weekend- who went into explicit detail about his very real plan to kill me and my family - and I am a bit overly emotional. Everyone has to live through some junk - but I guess what I really wanted to say is that I am so thankful I don't have to do it alone - even when we don't agree.

The testament to who a person really is would be the way they handle criticism. Do they always need to be right or do they posess the ability to say - holy moley, I sure do that and had no idea it was so annoying. Word to the wise - marry the person capable of saying that, even if they skip the holy moley part. We are human, we screw up, we start over. It happens.

There is a scene from Runaway Bride where Richard Gere (who I tolerated because I liked this movie) says what he thought the perfect marriage proposal would be:

"Look, I guarantee there'll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is gonna want to get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for the rest of my life, because I know, in my heart, you're the only one for me. " courtesy of IMDB