The joy of a big family

Last night the kids and I were invited, as guests of the extended family, to a gift exchange. The parents of this large family are charming and kind and made a point to come and welcome each of us as we came in. Similarly, Jake and MorMor did the same, introducing us, checking on how we were, making sure we got in line to eat.

But we are from a big family - we know to get in line early. Everything I have missed was there - the brothers gently teasing each other - playing with the nieces and nephews; the people who knew they were related but couldn't remember quite how; married brothers and their wives, each one more beautiful than the one before; and scores of kids - everywhere. There were points during the gift exchange that you could not move across the floor without stepping on a limb. The sisters bore the demeanor of my own aunts, laughing and tolerating the affection of thier brothers - even when it came in the form of teasing.

There were nearly forty people packed neatly into a beautiful family room complete with stone fireplace, bright candles, and high ceiling. Somehow we all seemed to fit -coziness that lent itself perfectly to talking to those around you in what seemed like an intimate setting for forty.

The noise level was another thing. Matriarchal rights allowed for the use of a cow bell to get the attention of all present - and made me think this was not the first time she had used THAT particular tactic to reign in six kids. Bitty thing, the mother. She certainly had the joy of a mother who is good at being the mother, but had recovered her figure so well you wouldn't guess there had been six kids. I noticed throughout the evening those who were not familiar with the joyful ear piercing noise that goes along with big families. They could be seen ducking outdoors into the 20degree night to reclaim some peace. I think I heard it described as "a lot of stimulation". For a big family junkie - it was heaven complete with honey baked ham and topped with spicy honey mustard.

So here is to the joys of big family - where there is room even for those who are related in spirit if not by blood or marriage. Thanks to God for providing comfort that comes with belonging.